Sunday, June 16, 2013

The Truly Revolutionary Promise of Our Founding Sinners

This book, Skipping Toward Gomorrah, has been on my night stand for about 2 weeks. It looks lonely.  Maybe I should sprinkle salt on it? I’m sure that would cause the raising of an eyebrow for conservatives who are fingering through my personal items while pretending to want to buy my home.  It would be the first whammy!, coupled with the Hindu-Buddhist-Muslim-Goddess-Christian altar that is in the bonus room immediately above the master.  Near it is a framed pastel of my guardian angel and a 4 foot oil of the prophet Isaiah. Otherwise, I’m sure my realtor would have instructed me to put the silliness away (so that I don't offend) for the sake of a sell.

I’ll need to return the book, so I thought I would skip church and read a few chapters.  Within the first, I’m uneasy and don’t know why.  I like that the author, Dan Savage, is pounding the social conservatives, and I kind of like the tongue-in-cheek angle that he’s taking.  (And, I liked him and the things he said in his NPR interview: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=186926890). But then, he summarizes with a sentence:

There are millions of ethical, fully moral sinners in America, and I’ve grown sick of listening to the right wing bitch and moan about them while the left wing refuses to defend them.

Again, I'm surrounded with my own agreements.  I like that he differentiates between ethics and morals.  Theses words are different but are often used interchangeably in debates. The slight-of-hand switch allows scold mongers to skew the conversation just enough that you're no longer talking about what you were talking about. Savage calls out this tactic:

        By successfully framing the debate as virtue versus sin, and not the laws versus your freedoms,
       the virtuecrats have succeeded in silencing their political foes...

And, I like that he calls out the left for not defending the American/God-given right to pursue peculiar happinesses. But, I know why I’m gradually letting my fingers loosen from the box car on his runaway train. It's the word ‘sinner.’ Up to this point, this author defends the right of (American) humans to pursue happiness, but then he acquiesces to the enemy’s position that homosexuals and other happiness-seekers are sinners.  What happened during the 8-10 pages of defending the right to follow one's own pleasure principle?

I look back to the opening sentences:

The truly revolutionary promise of our nation’s founding document is the freedom to pursue happiness-with-a-capital-H. Unfortunately, this promise is considered problematic by some Americans. The very pursuits that make some Americans happy (some very happy indeed) are considered downright sinful by social conservatives.

The opening position seems to contradict the concluding one. Did Mr. Savage convince himself that the “moral scolders” were right, or did he always secretly accept that homosexual interactions are sinful? If my guy is in flux, I don’t want to depend on the fire-spitting protestors who stood at the doors of the casino (where the Baton Rouge PRIDE event occurred yesterday).  Those people were certain in their beliefs even though they were unbelievable.

I might have found my answer at the thinking church.  I intended to go because all ages and models of Unitarians came out to support our gay rights march to and up the Capitol steps. But—, I checked the sermon topic—I can’t make it on Father’s Day.

I tried to remove this holiday from my “smart phone” calendar, but it kept coming back! I haven’t spoken to my paternal-DNA donor in about twenty years, and it’s been longer than that since I believed his unbelievable truth.

“You’re going to hell,” he had said with delusion.

He was (and possibly still is) an uber-conservative prison-preacher who has the audience that he always demanded—a captive one.  (That’s a slow-rising joke). 

In high school, I had wanted to be a missionary, but God did all he could to steer me away—save coming down, wrapping flesh around his holy spirit, and pointing a big fat waving finger, “NO!”   So, after funding couldn’t be allocated for my mission-field training, I opted for a student loan and landed on a college campus with 20,000 pagans. 

“She just needs to get to the ‘Psychology of Women’, and then all will fall in place,” God must have said. 

I can attribute my gay awakening to this undergraduate class, and my spiritual awakening to a ‘Bible As Literature’ class in graduate school.  The latter was conducted in the most conservative part of the south that I’ve ever perpetuated in.  (To give credence to this claim—I’ve lived in Texas, Florida, Georgia, Alabama, and Louisiana.) So, I found it surprising that an atheist who was also a lesbian would replace the local Southern Baptist preacher and be this university’s chosen professor.  

On the first day, she had us bring a Bible—the only required text.
“Which version,” many of us asked?
“Whatever you like,” she said.
So, we all show up with everything from KJV to The Living Bible versions. The class unanimously agreed that one guy’s bible was paraphrased by rappers. 

The prof would review a book (of the bible) and point to someone to read a verse.  Then, she would point to someone else to read the same verse.  And then, she would point to someone else to read it.  The most amazing revelations would occur when comparisons were made because within the English language the meaning proved to be inconsistent.

“’Man’ wrote this book,” I finally had to accept.

Biblical scriptures have been translated from Hebrew, Arabic, Aramaic and/or Greek, and then carelessly documented into English, reflecting social prejudices of the 17th Century.  I had learned from a Rabbi (when I was young) that the word ‘homosexual’ (as it is used today) didn’t occur in ancient scriptures.  Early communities accepted same-sex couplings except where older men had sex with young men. This act, rightfully, would have been viewed as pedophilia &/or rape.  This caused me to have an "ahh-ha" moment, realizing that the woman who turned around in the story of Sodom and Gomorrah was an example of the "salt of the earth" because she had so much compassion for the people who were burning that she couldn't not look back and save her own life. 

It was difficult for me to write the required papers for that class.  I offered topical treatments of the subjects that had little to do with the Bible and more to do with socio-political struggles that the allegorical figures, in their hypothetical communities, were presumed to have participated in.  Throughout the semester, I tried to process how all of my pre-college positions had foundations in something so unbelievable.

Knowing that the words can be so easily replaced with words that appear to be synonymous, I can’t place my spiritual faith in man and his static words.  When I hear the fire-spitters reference the Bible and claim that I am a sinner, I want to ask, “Do you believe in the Holy Spirit?” I imagine the conversation will go this way.

“Do you believe in the Holy Spirit?”
“Of course, I do!” the spitter would spit.
“Then, you believe in the spirit of the Law?”
“Of course, I do!” the spitter would spit and maybe stomp for emphasis.
“How do you believe in the spirit of the Law and the letter of the Law?  These contradict each other.”
At this point the spitter would spit, quoting Bible verses that defend hatred.  In response, I would not offer all of the verses that represent God’s (inspired) love.  With love and logic lost, I’d be wasting valuable energy on this hate monger. I’d rather channel it toward people who understand Christian charity. 

On my way past the fire-spitters, I’m in step with a girl who is walking toward the entrance. 
“Grab my hand,” she commands.
It takes me a minute to understand her words, but I follow her inviting smile.
“Good call,” I say when we release and reach for the doors of the PRIDE party. 
She smiles.
“It’s always surprising to me that prisoners get care and compassion, and we get that.”

She smiles and shrugs, heading toward a group of girlfriends who are reaching out for her sweet embrace. 

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

If the Gays Jump'd off a Bridge, Would You Jump Too?

I met Colt for dinner. We talk about anything. I'm a bit giddy with him like I was when I dated boys. I have to calm myself, but it takes some time because I just love this guy.  Weird, huh?

We talk about health and happiness. We talk about softball (girls) and baseball (RBIs).  And when I'm lucky, he explainswith judicial authoritywhy this country is at the brink of a radical change for gay rights.  Girl, I get giddy then.

I think he is a true believer which is odd since I'm the one who should be telling straight-man lawyer how things should be. It's me who should be pointing a wagging pointy finger. But, in fact, he's the one telling me.

"It is unconstitutional that the law does not extend the same rights to gays that it extends to straight couples," Colt is talking about surrogate parenting laws.

I did not know but a current case is hanging in the balance. I'm bad; I didn't take note of all of the specifics. I remember he said that the straights could lose their rights to use surrogates because the courtsor the conservative majority (which may be the same thing)fear that this ruling will allow same sex couples as well as gays to use surrogates [sperm or egg] to perpetuate a lineage.

"If they allow the straights, this law will allow the gays.  So, here's where the fight is," Colt says.
"That's awesome!" I pound my fist on the table. "It's like when all the boys were dying from AIDS, Reagan turned his head and no one cared until the straights started dying. Then and only then did the nation care about what AIDS was doing to citizens."
Colt is visibly alerted.
"This is what gays have always needed," I'm amp'd and awake.  "We are a small minority. Until what they want is what we want, gays can't get empathy, grounds for commonality."
Colt shakes his head.

I'm not sure if he's disagreeing or searching through his '80s memories for some similarities between then and now.  He begins to talk about how great it would be [for any lawyer] to present a case to the Supreme Court.  I offer to help him have this opportunity.

"Let's go out and get me a girl to marry, right now." I pound my fist on the table, gently.  "Tomorrow, we'll demand that Louisiana marry us. You can defend us."
"Yes, that would be nice of you," Colt smiles because he knows that my motive has less to do with getting him to a higher court than it has to do with getting me to a higher state.
"If I can't find a girl, I'll get a rope and a goat! That will get you the case before the court," I am thinking of the Faux news statements about how the nation's acceptance of homosexuals will cause some percentage of humans to want to marry any old beast of choice.
"Nobecause the goat can't offer mutual consent," Colt offers a trump smile, again.

After a long conversation about who will pay the bill and what significant things might happen this week, we part ways with a hug and a promise that we'll buy tickets for the baseball game on Friday. I head home and pass the gay bar. MacTiger's car is there, so I pull in for 1 beer. He gives me a hug and a few of us enter into a conversation about the differences between male and female bonding.  MacTiger has a good friend who is straight.  She talks about need for personal space.

"I want to go for a vacation without feeling like he [the boyfriend] must come. Don't get me wrong; if he walked in right now, I would light up," she says.

I get her.
I get that we live, today, with fewer gender laws.
We live without grandparent's social laws.
We struggle to find norms.
I thank the good Lord.

I opted to spend the evening with my straight male friend while MacTiger sat in the gay bar with his straight girl friend. And to complete the circle, Colt has been in the bar a few times with his gay (male) friends. Life is changing whether (us) old farts are ready for it or not.  The questions for the next generation is, "Will you accept your right to be free-er? Expect it? Demand it?"

Colt's words reassure. The stand against gay rights has taken "a mortal blow." The proof is that a conservative Supreme Court Justice (Scalia) can't find justification for denying rights to homosexuals who seek marriage equality.

"Well... if the Supreme Court doesn't vote the way of the land, can you imagine the day they don't award us our rights?" I paint the picture of a drag queen ass-whooping. "We will riot like no other minority ever."

Colt sits back. He is alerted.

"They broke glass; our boys will break stilettos. And, there will be pink triangles spray painted across this land by every Zorro mask'd lesbian who drives a semi."

Colt imagined the worst that we could do; and, he smiled, knowing that we'd be righteous in our long-time-due rainbow rebellion.